As our family got ready for church on Sunday I had an epiphany. Really it’s just one of those thoughts that makes me both proud to be a mom and wife, but also really empathetic to those moms who show up places looking like they’ve barely woken up, much less gotten ready for the day.
There must be freedom and grace for the disheveled mom.
Granted, it was Fall-Back-Crap, or whatever you call the day that Daylight Savings Time Ends – we really should throw the whole Daylight Savings thing into history and never look back. Anyway, this day always produces surprises all on it’s own when you’ve got two toddlers.
First, my coffee pot broke. Out of the blue it just stopped working. I’m not a morning person. God made coffee as a special blessing to people like me, and you too because you get the gift of coherent speech and non-grumpiness after coffee’s been had. I had to work out a poor-man’s pour over to start waking up.
Breakfast was a meltdown. My son wanted the yellow spoon, but not that yellow spoon.
My daughter wanted the pink bowl, not the purple one and this meltdown was after the one when she wanted cinnamon toast but was told oatmeal was on the menu.
I brushed and put barrettes in my daughter’s hair while sitting on the toilet. I was on the toilet, not her.
I chased my son around the house trying to get him to put on his shoes. This was after chasing him down with a clean diaper when he made a run for it as soon as he was naked.
All this happened while my husband locked himself in his bathroom to trim his beard.
Only after everyone else in my family was completely ready did I look down at myself and think, “Can it be my turn now?” I was still in my pajamas and of course hadn’t done a thing yet.
In fact, I actually did ask that question as I scampered to my room to find something to put on and realized the only pants I had available were the ones I’d worn the two previous days. I didn’t finish the laundry downstairs.
I had to hurry with my hair and make-up and get out the door. Everyone else was in the car being buckled in by the time I sailed through the door, without my jacket, into the cold morning air – trailing behind the rest of my family.
In all this, I truly praise God for the ability to laugh at the scene before me. I wasn’t grumpy despite my weak coffee pour-over and surprisingly I didn’t feel rushed or stressed but I recognized that these types of mornings don’t usually have this light-hearted outcome.
My days of being dressed in fun, outdoorsy style attire with my hair well done and make-up on are over.
At least for the time being – for this phase. Approximately half the time I’m in work-out pants and t-shirts and the other half of the time it’s jeans & t-shirts, usually with snot smeared on my shoulder from kids who can’t keep their fingers out of their nose and have no common sense to do anything with it other than wipe it on Mommy.
The truth is, moms sacrifice for their families.
We often put ourselves last and it results in our some-or-often-times sub-par appearance in the world’s eyes. This is a fantastic thing!
I want to remind fellow women, who often struggle with how we come across to others, of the grace that God offers us of which we need to believe, grasp and own:
1 Sam 16:7b — “For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
2 Corinthians 5:11-13 — “Therefore, knowing the fear of the Lord, we persuade others. But what we are is known to God, and I hope it is known also to your conscience. We are not commending ourselves to you again but giving you cause to boast about us, so that you may be able to answer those who boast about outward appearance and not about what is in the heart. For if we are beside ourselves, it is for God; if we are in our right mind, it is for you.”
Isaiah 40:29 — “He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength.”
Psalm 73:26 — “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.”
2 Corinthians 12:9 — “But he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.”
Galatians 6:9 — “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”
John 14:27 — “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.”
John 15:8 — “By this my Father is glorified, that you bear much fruit and so prove to be my disciples.”
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Stay focused on the character and freedom of our God and King so you do not lose heart at your sometimes disheveled appearance. You are building a Kingdom through the discipleship of and service to your family!
I would love to hear your disheveled moments where God tenderly reminds you of your worth while you feel near your worst. Please leave a comment & let me know your heart on this!