She walked with courage and grace as she reached the end of pregnancy. Her protruding belly carrying a precious cargo that can never be replaced. Her heart heavy, anxious and grieved while her family holds her hands and gently caresses her wounds.
My dear friend had just learned that her sweet baby girl died in utero and she was going to be induced to deliver a stillborn, precious baby. Devastating news to her family and my heart aches for her – knowing that she is experiencing one thing that most pregnant women fear. Yesterday was a rough day for me emotionally; you see, friends of those suffering suffer also. Perhaps not as deeply but I spent a good portion of the day crying for my friend. As Paul states in Romans 12:15, “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.” It’s what community should look like.
It’s times like these that we often question God’s goodness and plan. Why should my friend go through an entire pregnancy (her due date was in just 3 weeks) only to lose her baby just before the finish line? I know that sorrow can lead to doubt.
When doubts happen for me, I must realize that if I believe God is God and He is sovereign, then I must also believe His Word. So I go straight to Him in prayer, asking Him to reveal to me the truth of his Word to my hurting heart. Yesterday I did this on behalf of my friend, and other friends who are asking the questions on her behalf as well.
In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that your faith- of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire- may be proved genuine & may result in praise, glory & honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.” – 1 Peter 1:6-7
Somehow, I don’t know how because as Isaiah 55:8 states that His thoughts (and purposes) are greater than ours, through trials and suffering God is glorified. He makes Himself known greater through the bad things of the world. It could be that a friend or family member overhears biblical encouragement to the family and that produces a desire to read more which ultimately produces the seeds of faith; or it could be something completely different, I don’t know. I don’t have all the answers but I know a God who does, even if we don’t understand them.
Here is a wonderful post: 10 Ways to Glorify God Through Miscarriage. I think it applies to any type of loss as well.
My friend finished her pregnancy last night. She does not have a precious baby to nurse and cuddle for years to come, but she does have a God who loves her and cares for her through this grief. She does have a community of friends who love her and support her. She does have a family, near and far, who are praying for peace and comfort for her family.
Today’s prompt for Five-Minute Friday is “Finish“.