Number 3 – Describe your relationship with your spouse.
Paul is the only guy for me. I can not praise God enough for the gift that he is in my life, in fact I really do praise Him every day for bringing us together and for Paul asking me to marry him. He is kind, gentle, wise, humble, patient, self-controlled, generous, and so many more things. He embodies the fruit of the Spirit more than anyone else I know personally. He serves us so much every single day and he rarely complains.
I really don’t want to sound like I’m prideful or bragging about it but it’s hard to describe our marriage because I really feel like it’s a wonderful marriage. Sure, we have disagreements sometimes and pet-peeves come out periodically but I really think those are far and few between, they don’t happen that much because we agree on almost everything. Nearly every decision we’ve made has been very easy because we have the same perspective and the same foundation. Communicating is a big thing in our marriage – we discuss literally everything, no matter how mundane or gut-wrenching, unless it’s something another person has told one of us that should not be discussed.
Marrying a man who loves the Lord (and loved the Lord before I even met him) has been my very best decision in my whole life, aside from deciding to follow the Lord myself that is. He truly exemplifies godly character & is a spiritual leader in our home. He serves us every single day, from making toast for everyone in the morning to finishing the laundry so we can go to bed at night. He brings grace to me when I’m hurting by simply holding me. He loves all of us deeply and refuses to leave the house without specifically giving all of us hugs and kisses, and he does the same when he gets home.
He holds me accountable with Scripture if there’s something in my attitude, behavior, and heart that needs addressed. He gently leads me through Scripture if I have a theological question. I trust him implicitly and I know he desires the very best for us. When I’ve brought things to his attention that he may need to address, he’s been gracious to listen and think on it without becoming defensive. He listens to ideas or questions that I have and he seeks my input in decisions we need to make.
If there was one thing that I wish could change in our marriage, and Paul knows this, it’s that I’d like him to be more encouraging with his words to me. I remember & store up words, good and bad, so encouragement is a big deal in making me feel loved. I know he expresses his love for me by doing things for me and when I accepted that instead of wanting him to change it made things easier for me, but still the best way for anyone to get to my heart is through genuine encouraging words (with specifics, not generalities).
Our marriage is not perfect, no marriage is, but it’s pretty darn wonderful. We have struggles in other areas in life so I consider our marriage a gracious gift and I’m ecstatic that I get to be Paul’s wife. He is the best man I have ever met.
Would you like to participate in the “30 Things” series?
There is a link party on the index page of this series, you can add your link at any time this month. I would truly enjoy reading about you!