Number 26 – What popular notion do you think the world has most wrong?
Tough one because I think there are several. I can lump a bunch of them with this idea: You can’t be who you are. This notion is simply that you need to change things about yourself in order to be welcomed, received, worthy, loved, or to succeed at life, work and relationships. Many people will verbally say ‘people should be who they are, be themselves’ but then give advice to change things about themselves in order to be accepted or to attain some goal – be it a promotion, a love life, friends, the feeling that you are doing well in marriage or parenting, etc.
Everything from weight loss gimmicks, diets, fads, and workout regimes in order to look like the models that are photoshopped and accepted as truly beautiful in today’s society to needing to manage money better or be a better cook or wife or mom, etc in order to feel like you are succeeding at whatever you want to do. I know I’m not being gentle when I say I think it’s utter hogwash. God made us to be us, and He designed us the specific way He did. By not accepting who we are, we are basically telling Him that He made a mistake and that we can make ourselves better. How idolatrous and absurd! It also presumes that we need to obtain all the perfection that we can in order to have it all and not need others. The only human being who was ever perfect was Jesus and he was 100% God at the same time as being 100% human.
I have strengths and weaknesses, and all are glorifying to God in many ways (all can also be sinful if used wrongly). For instance, I am great at speaking truthfully into others’ lives, but I’m not-so-great at doing it gently. This means that someone who is filled with a compassionate trait (who may be afraid of confrontation) often reaches the heart of people that I can’t. It also means that certain people get a kick-start from me because they need that tougher love & confrontation that I do not shy away from. I do not need to make it a point to change my very nature in order to reach everybody, I can’t. I can pray that God would help be more gentle and compassionate, which I do, but it’s Him that will do the changing in my heart. We need other people because we cannot obtain all the traits and characteristics that would make us perfect in everybody’s eyes, including our own.
Now, I am not saying that we should disregard any exercise routine or let finances get out of control or anything of the sort. I also don’t condone excuses (“This is who I am, I don’t want to eat healthy…” and the like) of not acting on convictions or moral responsibility. We need to be responsible for the things God has made us stewards of, including our bodies, resources and in community. However, all too often in our culture and even seen around the world, we put too much of an emphasis on changing ourselves for the purpose of being accepted by others. That is where I think the world has it completely wrong.
Guess what!? God loves you exactly as you are. He wants you to know Him and He will change you through knowing Him, but He really does love you for who He made you to be.
Welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.” – Romans 15:7
PS – I’m not incredibly wonderful at articulating what I’m trying to say sometimes so if you have questions please feel free to shoot me an email or comment below and ask.
Tomorrow is #27 – What is your favorite part of your body and why?
Would you like to participate in the “30 Things” series?
There is a link party on the index page of this series, you can add your link at any time this month. I would truly enjoy reading about you!