Number 21 – Describe your relationship with your siblings.
This is also an interesting question because I have two sets of siblings.
She is my twin, born at the same time to Beth & Don when they were married to each other (first marriage for both). It was always the two of us in my household growing up with Beth & Bernie – no other siblings on this side of the family during Beth’s second marriage. Katie has always been my best friend and closest confidant, we were pretty inseparable growing up. We went everywhere together. She’s always been extroverted while I’m introverted. I can trust her to be honest with me, even if it’s not gentle, and I can do the same thing with her. We know each other’s perspectives well and have similar outlooks on almost anything including parenting styles, healthy food, discipline, spiritual doctrine and growth, etc. Whether or not we mesh well with activity levels pales in comparison to the friendship that we’ve developed while growing up together.
He is the oldest son of Pat (my stepmom) & Don (though his biological dad is named Keith). He is a year younger than Katie & me, from the previous marriage of Pat. When visiting their family when we were little, we used to pick on Matt (for which I feel terrible about now) – he was a scrawny kid, liked golf & baseball and basically was nothing like us. In reality we should’ve gotten along well with him because we all came from broken homes and had that in common. Needless to say, once we went through that big court case and no longer visited them, we really didn’t get to know anyone on this side of the family. In college, Matt & I both attended DCC, the “Denver Christmas Conference” for Campus Crusade for Christ, and it was there that I met up with him for the first time in years and years, and I also got to meet his then-girlfriend-now-wife. As adults, I think Matt and I get along well, we laugh about things from the past and have an understanding that we’re all different people now. We can joke but can also have non-surfacy conversation. We get along and I love that.
She is the first-born daughter of Don & Pat together. Honestly I really don’t remember anything about Alicia when we were able to visit. I don’t remember how our relationship ever was but as adults after trying to reconnect with this family, it was a rocky road. I was really apprehensive anyway about coming into a family that had grown up together without us but whose relationships we had been deprived of, and I think Alicia & my personalities are so different that it aided in long years of turmoil for me. As I’ve already stated, I’ve always struggled with knowing where I fit in and it came to the surface full force when I was trying to get to know her. I felt rejected, unwanted, I didn’t know what was happening and why I couldn’t even have a conversation with her, I truly thought she just hated me. It took over a decade but we finally had a break-through and the last year or so has been so much better. I’m enjoying getting to know her, hearing her stories and seeing who she is becoming as she entered marriage and became a stepmom herself. I feel like we’ve got a long way to go but this is a good start.
Don & Pat’s youngest daughter. Rebekah and I are a lot alike in that we both are “au natural” girls. We like to be real, even if that’s in yoga pants and t-shirts, and we’re open so we tend to share a lot about ourselves and if you disagree, eh, whatever! We get along great, we always enjoy catching up and I absolutely love our one-on-one times (because I’m just better at those anyway) but they are really fun when you feel comfortable to be yourself with the person you are with. That’s how I feel about Rebekah, I feel comfy and cozy – I feel like she really loves me and appreciates my presence. I truly love this woman!
Don & Pat’s youngest son. Since I don’t really remember anything about the 3 youngest in Don’s family while we were able to see them, I don’t know the history of how we interacted back then. Upon resurfacing in their family, David has always been extremely inviting and warm. I have immensely appreciated the love and the welcome he has shown to me, truly inviting me to be his sister once again. He has always called me his sister and he has always been open with hugs and wanting to know how I’ve been. Honestly, it was mostly David & Rebekah that had me eager to continue trying to build relationships with this family again after so many years. I’m pretty timid in overwhelming situations but these two youngest siblings have made a world of difference in this venture.
In all, I think I have pretty neat sisters and brothers and I’m glad they are all a part of my life. It’s been quite a ride so far, and I’m hoping it continues to be even more awesome the more we get to know each other.
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