Number 15 – Describe when I knew my spouse was “the one” or how I fell in love.
Wow. This is a hard one to answer. It’s hard because I don’t know when it actually happened. It happened the best way it should happen – over time. Paul and my relationship evolved from acquaintance, to friendship, to best-friendship, to “courting” (dating not in the cultural definition but with the express expectation of finding out if we could be married to one another). We entered a romantic relationship knowing that marriage was either likely or that we wouldn’t be together for very long. I wouldn’t have started dating/courting him had I not already decided he was worth it – the possibility to be “the one”.
I remember our first date was to Starbucks on Dec 5th, I did most of the talking. After that we just arranged more and more get togethers. He invited me to his place for dinner, he “stalked” me at the grocery store (though he says he didn’t really, he just knew I would be there – because he asked what I might be doing after work), then I invited him to my place for dinner, etc. It just rolled like that, however by Christmas I was pretty excited about Paul and when my sister came to visit while on leave with the Air Force, I made sure she met him so I could get her opinion. She loved him, though she thought he was quiet which is perfect for me because I am too!
Within another month I was talking to my best friend Shannon about being uncertain about where we were at – we were hanging out several times a week but he hadn’t really had the DTR (“Define The Relationship”) talk with me yet so I didn’t know exactly what he thought about me. Then came Valentine’s Day and he passed me a note after bible study that read “Will you be my valentine? Check yes or no.” I checked yes, but that was it – still no talk! So, I knew he liked me but we weren’t for sure labeled as “together”. A week later, on Feb 21st, Facebook notified me that I was in a relationship with Paul Brown and I needed to confirm it. It was hilarious, but by that time I was pretty much head over heels for him and knew we were probably getting married if he asked me to be his girlfriend. After making sure all parents were met, on July 1st, just 7 months after first meeting me, he proposed (it’s a funny story, you should read it.) Seven months after that, on Feb 28th, we were married & it’s been almost-but-not-all-the-time-bliss for us!
I’m very thankful that by the time we met each other, we both had grown so much in knowing what we were looking for in a spouse and wanting to honor God in any relationship we had with the opposite gender that it made it a pretty simple process. We just “knew” as we saw each other’s character tested over time, that’s the real test, we’re perfect for each other (and I’m not just saying that because I’m mushy, we really are).
Tomorrow is #16 – What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?
Would you like to participate in the “30 Things” series?
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